, with a plan of how to take it all: When you come out to grapple with your opponent, the general is to with minor – usually starting at the hands or head. From there you work to increasing amounts of body contact and control. Because control is generally much easier on the ground than it is standing, the action typically transitions to the floor, where the idea is to get ever increasing amounts of body contact in ever increasing amounts of positional dominance. Make sure you realize this is a step by step process. Don't try to take too much too early. Start with the small actions of hands and head and build from there. Trying to grab too much too early makes you easy to counter attack. Work progressively towards your goals and don't skip steps unless the is completely open (and even then be aware it could be a trap). You will probably have to repeat this process many times over the course of a tough match – get used to it – it is the way of all Jiu jitsu.